Do you ever feel overwhelmed by the amount of ‘how to’s’ out there when it comes to manifesting?
I do. And I’m a teacher of this stuff.
So for simplicity sake (cause honestly, don’t we all just want to know the essentials) I’m giving you the one absolute manifesting must have……designing a daily practice that works for you.
Why is this so essential? Because in order to create what you want in the world, you have to create it on the inside first. Period. And a daily practice, specific to you, is what builds the momentum on the inside, needed to experience it on the outside.
Have you ever heard the saying ‘thoughts become things’? And it’s true for both positive and negative thoughts. What you think about the most, you see the most. So if you constantly think you’re lacking in something, the you’ll just continue to experience more of that lack!
Let’s use money as a quick example. Usually when we don’t have the money or security we crave, we spend the majority of our time thinking about NOT having it. Thoughts like, ‘I never have enough money, I’m always broke, how am I going to get more money’ etc. consume us. We end up continuing to experience not having enough money because it’s exactly what we focus on! Take stock of your own thoughts. How much do you spend thinking of the things you don’t want? It can be difficult to accept that we’re also responsible for creating the negative stuff in our life. But when we are willing to take radical responsibility and own it, we begin to create a new experience.
Now, it’s one thing to hear and understand this principle and then another to actually intentionally bring this into your life and make a commitment to change your negative thought patterns. It takes practice and exactly why a daily practice is needed, think of it as a workout for your thoughts! So, let’s get started, shall we.
First, go back to that awesome goal you want to manifest. The one thing that you absolutely need in your mindset practice is something that helps you connect with what you truly desire. I call this ‘tuning in’. Spend some time thinking about what it would be like to have it and experience it in your life. Ask yourself this, ‘What would my life actually look like if I had this in my life’? This question will generate some positive thoughts, affirmations, and feelings, write ALL of them down. These are the thoughts you’ll use in your daily practice to replace the old negative ones!
Next, commit to tuning into these thoughts every day. Sticking with a daily practice can be a challenge (just like going to the gym!). So you want to choose a mindset practice that will work for you. Do you like journaling and writing out what you want to manifest? Or are visualizations a better fit? Maybe you like to read your affirmations, or create a mind movie? The point is, it doesn’t matter how you tune in to your goal, just that you do it. The tuning in, IS the daily practice because you are spending time breaking up the negative thought patterns (which bring a negative experience) and replacing them with positive ones, aligned with your desire!
Finally, once you’ve figured out what works for you, visualisations, writing, guided meditations, affirmations or whatever it is. Commit to following it for at least 40 days and see if you can see the evidence that your thoughts are changing. Track your progress! Create an ‘evidence’ list and write down all the new things that start to happen that are more in alignment with your goal. Don’t forget to track the little things too, it all counts and contributes to your belief that you CAN create what you desire.
I’d love to hear what you’re manifesting in your life, comment below and share it with me!
Knowing how the law of attraction actually works is key in manifesting what you want in life and business. This law is not mystical, woo woo or only for a certain privileged group. It’s a universal law all of us are experiencing everyday, no different than the law of gravity.
The book The Secret came out. And it was great because it started the conversation of consciously creating what we desire. But the Law of Attraction isn’t a secret or magical, it’s practical.
‘Match the frequency to the reality you want and you can not help but get that reality. It is not philosophy. It is physics.’ Albert Einstein
For a long time I didn’t understand why I could manifest some of my goals easily and others I struggled to make happen. It wasn’t until I fully accepted that if LOA was a universal law and I couldn’t get around or away from it, then it must mean I was constantly manifesting…..the good and the bad. Yikes!
I quickly realized that regardless of my experience being a ‘good’ one or a ‘bad’ one, I had done the exact same thing to manifest both! Finally, I knew at that moment, knowing howthis law worked could be applied consciously and intentionally to manifest my dreams!
The Law of Attraction can be broken down into 3 super simple elements.
The 3 Elements Of LOA
1. Alignment – how you feel about something
2. Mindset – how much you believe it to be true or possible
3. Action – the action you take to make it happen
Let’s take a closer look at how these elements, using money as an example, are in play for both our awesome and not so great experiences.
worried, stressed, anxious, scared, annoyed, sad, depressed
Mindset – how you think about money
I always have money. Money comes easily to me. There’s always more than enough. I love having money.
I have never enough. I’m always so broke. Why can’t I get more money? This is so scary; how will I survive?
Actions – what your actions are around money
managing money, following a budget, tracking spending, using strategies to increase income, talking positively about money
disorganized, overspending, giving up, complaining, talking negatively about money, taking no action toward improvement
As you can see when we do a side by side comparison, it doesn’t matter what the experience is, LOA is always, always happening. So now that we are armed with this information, we can begin to apply the strategiesthat help us create what we want consciously! And I’ve got you covered, grab my Free Create Your Mindset Practice Guide here to help you get started!
So, today I want to talk to you about three ways you might be interfering with your own success. Especially when you’re so driven to succeed and you have like a whole hearted intention of doing the right thing to succeed in your business and make consistent income and do all that you can do to make your business a success. So, what do I mean by interfering?
Well, there is an entire universe around you that wants nothing but the best for you. It wants you to succeed, it wants your dreams to come true, it wants to help you. And too often, we push our own agenda. We try to force our way rather than sitting back and just allowing what we’ve asked for to help us and to come through.
Here are 3 ways you’re probably interfering with your success
We force things to happen.
And what I mean by forcing? Forcing is anything where it feels tough, edgy and like you’re pushing pushing pushing pushing pushing. When you’re always analyzing it, you’re always complaining about it and you’re wondering why isn’t working? What’s happening? Why isn’t this working? You’re complaining about it and you’re trying to do all you can to like make it happen, that’s forcing. And that is interfering with your success, because if you think about it like a brick wall. You’ve literally put a brick wall up in front of you. And the universe is like ‘Hey I’m trying to help you’. I called my biz partner, biz partners trying to help you, trying to get in there, trying to give you the guidance and everything that you need and you’re like ‘no I can’t pay attention’ because I’m too busy forcing things over here. That’s one way that we interfere with their own success be force.
We give up way too quickly
The second way, is we give up too quickly. We do this in tons of different little ways. One of the ways we do this is through inconsistency. So maybe we don’t give up as in we’re leaving our business, but all the ways that we play small and are not consistent, because we’re too busy focused on what’s not working or we’re too scared to get up and really go after it. So we interfere with our own success, we give up too quickly rather than calling on the support of the universe, calling on the support of your business partner right and focusing on your dreams, focusing on what you really want to happen. Instead you give up. So the universe doesn’t even have time. There it is out there orchestrating everything for you, getting your success together, lining up the people that need you, you know making things happen for you and then you just shut it down. Or we shut it down because it didn’t happen fast enough, we do the go-stop-go-stop cycle where we go really fast hard and we try really hard and we’re forcing then we stop because it didn’t happen fast enough. And that’s the second way we interfere with our own success. We’re actually the ones stopping our success.
We don’t listen to our gut.
We don’t listen to the answers the universe brings us. We don’t listen to what our gut is trying to tell us. And when I say by gut, that is how it’s communicated to us, that’s how our business partner talks to us through guidance, through our gut. And in order to make that happen, you have to be quiet. Take some time out during the day and listen. That’s all part of the mindset practice as well that you need to be successful.
So you need to stop forcing your agenda. Stop giving up so quickly, because things aren’t working as fast as you want them to. And then finally get quiet. Find some time during your day to sit quietly to learn what it feels like to listen to that internal guidance. Ask the question, what would you have me do today?. That’s the question I ask everyday ‘what would you have me do today’? Business partner, where should we go today? what should we do? What should we focus on?
And I always get something, I always get to do a Facebook Live or reach out to somebody or I get a really creative great idea. That’s what you need to listen to. And when you don’t make time to hear and that mixed with when you hear it and then you ignore it, you are interfering with your own success.
So what I want for you is to really start to think about this. Think about the ways and how much you talk about success you want. You complain about it not happening. Right. We’ve all been there. You focus on the ‘not happening’ of it. And how many times do you just let go? Ask for what you want, focus on what you want, ‘your desires are dependable’. There’s like a billion different desires you have, why do you think you have your particular ones? That’s not a coincidence, that’s to be trusted.
So your desires are dependable. So you gotta focus on them, ask for them and then stop interfering, let them come to you.
I hope this helps. Post a comment below if you have some great ways where you don’t interfere with your success, also comment if you feel like you do and I can give you some tips on how not to.
The majority (actually almost all) of the calls I get from potential clients includes the question, ‘How do I make more money in my business?’. Making consistent income (minimum 4 figures a month) is the biggest challenge for most entrepreneurs in their first few years of business.
Now, while there are a TON of great strategies to implement in your business which will lead to generating consistent income, if we don’t have our thoughts aligning with what we want to create (more money!), we will continue to fall short.
In today’s vlog I share the number one way to start building a solid money mindset and include a homework assignment to get you started! Watch the video below!
People are always looking for ways to succeed. Succeed in life, in love, in business. Downloading check off lists, cheat sheets and how to’s but one of the fastest ways to create both personal and professional success is to take a look around you.
Introducing the 40/40/20 rule (a super popular ‘how to succeed’ in direct marketing tool in the 80’s, recommended breaking your time down as follows: 40% on building your list; 40% on your offer; and 20% on message and creative) but now with a twist.
If you want to know how successful you are, take a look at the people around you. You’re likely the average of the five people closest to you. So if you are stuck, unmotivated or lacking direction, chances are those around you are too.
Make It Personal
When I reflect back on a time in my life I wasn’t experiencing much success, most of the people I associated with weren’t either. As time went on (and we were STILL doing the same thing at the same local pub) I noticed how bored I was becoming and equally inspired to change and create something new.
Around the same time a quote by Tony Robbins caught my attention, “If you do what you’ve always done, you’ll get what you’ve always gotten’. I took that as my sign, dusted off my bar stool, took an inventory of my surroundings and decided to allocate my own 40/40/20 rule in the following ways:
-40% of my time I spent on improving myself and becoming the person I actually wanted to be. This included reading inspirational books, hiring a life coach, exercising, taking courses and learning to meditate. This helped me connect with my deeper purpose, feel good and renewed my interest in the world around me.
-40% of my time I spent reading books and hanging out with people who were more successful than or inspired me. This helped me up my game and rise to the occasion, so to speak. By surrounding myself with people who succeeding and doing great work, brought out the best in me.
-20% of my time was spent serving others or practicing my skills. This helped me to grow as a coach and Entrepreneur and receive valuable feedback which only helped me grow more.
I followed this version of the 40/40/20 rule diligently for about 2 years. As my business grew the percentage breakdown shifted. I would say the biggest shift being, 40% of my time is now spent on helping others achieve high levels of success and become the person they strive to be, while 20% is spent learning through others and engaging in conversations and activities that inspire me.
Regardless of how you break it down, the point is; if you want to succeed, surround yourself with success. So check in with yourself. What areas in your life are you wanting to experience more success? How could you apply your own 40/40/20 rule to make this happen?